You have my sympathies. It sounds like your child is going to be in this tug of war. It's going to make for some difficult times ahead. Getting her the councillor was an excellent idea. Good luck to you and your family.
Happy Guy :)
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I got counselling for my daughter!
by Jez inupdate: the studying with my daughter is great.
i have also decided to set up some counselling for her.
i have free counselling through work, they set it up, find an appropriate counseller given the circumstances, etc.
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update on vicki boer
by needs_lots inhello to all my friends,.
i havent been around much lately, and i'am almost scared to post.
i came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.. mostly ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit.
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If I were her brother I would be supporting her emotionally and I probably would have gone and pounded Daddy dearest into the dirt....in a New York Bethel minute!
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Letter From Society Say Going To a JW/Non-JW Wedding Has Consequences!
by minimus inmy mother called me in a tizzy saying that her friend heard that letters were read and a talk was given in 2 different congregations saying that the society's new policy is that if a elder, m.s.
or pioneer attends an "unequaled" wedding----they will be removed from their exemplary positions because they are "disloyal to jehovah god"........what do you think about this one?
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It doesn't surprise me. When I was married in the 80s, my ex's parents and sister (who were JWs) boycotted the wedding. Actually it was worse: They promised to come but were a no show. When my ex's brother married outside "the truth" they boycotted his wedding as well - once again promising to attend but not showing even though they lived down the street (my ex and I attended but we were not JWs). Not only did they not attend the weddings they hard real problems acknowledging the legitimacy of the marriages. Many attempts were made to break up the unions after through a variety of manipulative means. When my ex's sister was married, the groom's mother was forbidden from attending because she had been disfellowshipped for smoking.
I am surprised to hear these stories of JWs attending non JW weddings. I do not question the truthfulness it's just that it is so incredibly different from the attitudes of the JWs I met. I have often heard of the large differnces in attitudes amongst JWs depending on geographic areas. Clearly some are far more fundamental (or radical) than others. It's odd too because the JWs used to always brag how uniform they were in their beliefs regardless of where you went in the world.....just one more thing they lie to themselves about.
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I need loving hearts to send help to another EX-JW
by mouthy ini am asking any who could take the time-to send encouragement to an ex jw-she was raised as one- her mother died for refusing blood...she married out of the org- & was dfellowshipped.
the fellow she married was an alcholic---didnt understand her feelings about being ousted!!!!
!a couple of months ago she tried to kill herself.why????
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St. Jacob's. Fun town. I like to go there every summer and shop for arts and crafts. Some of the hardcore Mennonite's freak me out a bit when they go flying past in their black painted buggies with minimal windows but it's a charming little town.
Glad to hear the spyware is gone. I think the Norton you have is just the "Norton Anti Virus". It often does not pick up invading programs that the "Norton Internet Security" does.
I hope that the hospital is able to get a professional to work with your freind. She sounds like she has so much to live for and is clearly appreciated and needed. I have known some alcoholics and I just don't know how someone could have a lasting marital relationship with one. I can't help but think she is so much better off, if not immediately, but in the long term. Your obviously a very dear freind to be trying so hard to reach your freind emotionally.
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Bonnie and Berta Go to France!
by Farkel inyep.
the saga of bonnie boyd and berta peale is now translated into french and about to invade the land of great food and crappy politics!.
rutherford demasque : l?affaire berta et bonnie.
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Easy Farkel Eeeeasy. I'm just messin' wit ya
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I need loving hearts to send help to another EX-JW
by mouthy ini am asking any who could take the time-to send encouragement to an ex jw-she was raised as one- her mother died for refusing blood...she married out of the org- & was dfellowshipped.
the fellow she married was an alcholic---didnt understand her feelings about being ousted!!!!
!a couple of months ago she tried to kill herself.why????
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Happy Guy :)
I strongly recommend Norton Internet Security. It does a fantastic job of blocking everything. You can find it at Best Buy and Future Shop (I don't know if Woodstock has those stores but London or Windsor does). It costs about $100.00 CDN with a with a mail-in rebate. There are some free spyware removal programs on the net but I can't attest for their reliability.
Please accept my sympathies for you and your freind. I wish there was something I could say to help matters but this type of thing is not my forte. Obviously she is depressed and needs professional help. I am not sure that one can effectively reason with someone who is depressed. I mean you could tell her how important she is in your life. You could tell her how much her children need her throughout life for emotional guidance and support. You could tell her that she would also be denying her future Grandchildren the blessings of her wisdom and love but I am not sure it could help. It sounds like she needs something more like professional intervention.
Good luck and God bless.
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Bonnie and Berta Go to France!
by Farkel inyep.
the saga of bonnie boyd and berta peale is now translated into french and about to invade the land of great food and crappy politics!.
rutherford demasque : l?affaire berta et bonnie.
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GJ Farkel ! (So this is how you spend your Friday night?)
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Guess How Much My 3 Weeks In Hospital Cost?
by Englishman inabsolutely nothing.
zilch.
zero.. the uk national health service may have it's detractors because of it's lengthy waiting lists.
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We have free healthcare here in Canada or as it is called "Universal Healthcare". Up until a little over a decade ago it was top notch with little or no delays. Problem was extremely expensive. People would visit the doctor for the slightest thing and often. Canada racked up enormous debt and our wise politicians (hmmmmm excuse me I'm choking on my words) finally tightened the screws. Governement spending was slashed across the board in the 1990s and so to was Universal healthcare. It stayed Universal except that funding was massively cut back. We have had about a decade of "savings" and debt reduction and that has been on the backs of many who suffered a lack of timely medical treatment. The debate you have heard recently Blondie is that Canada is now in a financial to position to resume increases in healthcare spending. The question revolved around how much the Federal government was willing and able to provide the provincial (regional) governments (who administer the spending).
We do have private insurance here in Canada and many are lucky to have their employers pick up the tab for the premiums. The private insurance typically covers or tops up the free government paid healthcare for things like a private room or full coverage when travelling abroad. Many private insurance cover prescriptions. I am lucky in that I have 100 percent prescription coverage with no cap (I also have many other perks like chiropractor, message, full optical and dental but many employer paid insurance plans cover those things with a cap or 80-90 percent.
One of the largest hits to our healthcare system was in the 90s when spending was cut the hospitals decided to layoff nurses and cut nurses salaries. This was a large factor in timely delivery of healthcare and it also saw Canada lose thousands of nurses to the U.S. permanently.
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quote from the OCT 22/04 AWAKE!
by in a new york bethel minute inpage 15 states: "valentina married and moved with her husband to ingelheim, germany, in 1993. they have three children, who are all baptized witnesses of jehovah.".
does anyone find this statement a little strange?
even if they had their first kid right after being wed, he/she would still only be 11. and they are all baptized... there is a picture of the family... there are no triplets in the picture, and they are all young... so the sentence means how it reads.
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Well let's remember it's an Awake magazine - the one intended for Public consumption (as opposed to the Watchtower which is not usually circulated to the unbrainwashed public).
My first impression was that this riddle was easily solved by the fact that they moved sometime after being married and having the children. Since you are reading it directly along with the photograph of the family and you say the impression is that the children are young (as young as 9), then I would have to guess that it was designed to give the unbrainwashed public an impression that Jehovah's Witnesses baptize at a young age. Probably one of their many efforts to deceive the public into believing that Jehovah's Witnesses are main stream and deflect notions that they are a cult.
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Dating Advice?
by 607?Nope ini was raised in the cult, but finally saw the light after 35 years.
i had long been aware of errors, but was willing to keep ignoring them as long as i thought they were mistakes.
it wasn't until i found out that many of the "mistakes" were outright lies and that the gb that we worshiped (and anyone who thinks thay are a jw and worshiping god or christ is self-delusional) were blatant liars and deceivers, that i finally quit.
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Good post: Clear and well written but me thinks you worry too much.
The world is now your oyster my friend all you have to do is communicate and communicate honestly. When meeting new women simply be as open and honest as you are now. There will be qualities you posess which some will be attracted to (and they may very well be characteristics that you did not think important or worthy of merit). One thing is certain, success will come from those who get involved with you with eyes wide open so make sure you fully disclose your unique background.
On the issue of birthday celebrations or any days of romantic significance it's easy: As soon as you become aware of them put all these dates on a calender or palm pilot and keep your eye on them. If you're really romantic you will actually take the time and effort to plan and set up something special. If you need ideas on what would be considered "special" I suggest that you make a thread when the occasion is approaching and ask the many wise women who grace this site for ideas.